“Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church– for we are members of his body. ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ This is a profound mystery–but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Jesus is at the heart of Christian marriage. The mutual submission of a husband and wife in marriage flows out of reverence for Christ. A wife’s submission is as to the Lord. A husband’s relationship with wife is patterned after the submission of Jesus. The concepts of head, love, sacrifice, and care are all understood through the lens of Jesus.
So connected are Jesus and Christian marriage that Paul writes: “This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.”
When we read this text we usually ask the question “What can we learn about marriage from Jesus?” But the question I am pondering today comes at this passage from a different angle. Today I ask, “If people were to casually observe or even diligently study my marriage, what would they learn about Jesus?”
If we are married, everyday we proclaim Jesus just by the way we relate to our husband or wife. The question is, what are we telling people about Jesus?